Just Friends or Just Denial

You know that book of codes, which has so many unwritten rules of conduct ( like guys code of "bros before hoes" or girls codes of "never dating a friend's ex")? Well in that unknown book, its been established that members of the opposite sex can't just "be friends". Even movies propagate this misconception. Take for instance, the movie "Brown Sugar" - first friends, girl likes guy, guy likes girl, guy gets married, guy gets divorced and eventually guy gets with girl and a whole lot in between, but I wont get to that; you all get the idea. This cements the whole idea even more.

Ok how about I make it more personal. Lets say, there have been 2 friends, Sade and Emeka, who have known each other for a little bit and yes, they did have feelings for each other but it was never explored. Regardless, Sade somehow manages to compare every guy she meets to Emeka as he becomes "her standard". As expected with time, Sade wants more but Emeka doesn't and the feelings did get in the way of the relationship to the point of them not talking at all for a few months.

Now hit the forward button, Emeka calls and they reconnect and the FRIENDSHIP (nothing else) springs back up. More importantly, this time, they make it clear that they are just friends with "minute" benefits and nothing more and both agree. People around them say that they get this uncomfortable vibe (or "sexual tension") between them. Emeka and Sade don't deny that but they claim to take it in stride and say it is all just in fun. So the question is, can two people of the opposite sex just be friends, or would one day have these feelings take over? And do you think this "agreement" between Emeka and Sade will work?

via jaguda.com