Aproko.net discussed the stigma attached to Nigerian Men.

“I will NEVER marry a Nigerian guy”. It’s a phrase we may have heard millions of times from other races and even more amazingly, Nigerians! The general consensus is we are a bunch of good for nothing, promiscuous guys who have no respect for women. We are synonymous with fraud (419), poverty, aids and lack of education.I strongly disagree.
But it’s a point that needs to be addressed. Why do our men have such a negative reputation? What have they done to deserve this? Or is it unmerited? It is a debateable topic, but this brings to mind the recent news of 2Face Idibia having 5 children with 5 different women! Could the negative actions of our prominent stars be the cause of the negative stigma attached to our men? On further thought, this cannot be the reason! Why? How many US male stars have been promiscuous in their relationships (Usher cheating on Chilli) or similar to the 2face example, T.I has 5 children from 3 different women. Has this affected their reputation? I think not!
Could it be the way our Nigerian men conduct themselves. From their dressing (Trousers and Timberlands), the manner in which they speak to females (Hello Baby), or their corny chat up lines (You are the credit to my phone). Take for example, my friend who for the purpose of this piece we`ll call Exhibit A. Exhibit A received a random message from a guy on facebook last week
Hi Baby! I know u don’t know me, but I`ve added you because you’re blessed with heavenly beauty. You also have a beautiful name. I would very much like to get to know you. My number is *** ***, Give me a call sometime, and maybe we can meet up sometime? Hope to hear from you soon
If you don’t like this message, feel free to let me know your reasons?
**** ************
Let’s dissect this message:
The opening greeting Hi Baby It`s hard to imagine anyone else other than a Nigerian male starting a conversation (with someone they don’t know) like this!
Reason for the message: Blessed with heavenly beauty, likes their name. Typical lines used by all guys, but to be used in the first message? hmmmmm
Purpose: To get to know her, maybe meet up. Who gives out there telephone number in the first message?!?!
Closing: if you don’t like this message, feel free to let me know your reasons! This screams out Nigerian! Hoping that if he gets rejected, he`ll get a few tips on what to do better next time.
Messages like these bring us to the realisation that a lot of Nigerian men lack decorum. This point is further reiterated in the way a lot of our men carry themselves in clubs! Go out to any club in London, and its likely you`ll see an *`Uncle`, trying his luck with girls, young enough to be his daughter.
A question that needs to be asked though, is it all Nigerian men that go on like this? I speak for myself and many others when I say NO! It’s a small margin, ruining it for the rest of us. We, the majority are paying for the sins of the minority. What`s even worse is the small minded females who believe all Nigerian males are the same as the `bush` ones they’ve encountered. Is every blonde female dumb?
It not only shows the ignorance of these people, in, that they’ve made a judgment on a group of people based on the actions of a few but also their arrogance in the sense that they believe that their superior to Nigerian men.
Its disturbing hearing how bad people react when they hear the word Nigeria. Yes, Nigeria does have its issues, but why can`t people understand that not all of Nigeria is bad, that there are actually some wonderful, intelligent, kind, sincere, and HONEST Nigerians? The same way families have their bad apple, likewise Nigeria has some too.
As the good book says, `If any of you is without sin, let him cast the first stone`!

Pretty Interesting Topic.

via Aproko.net